It’s too late for me to get to know my father better but I’m glad others are thinking about it while they still can.

Things just pass through my head and it helps to write them down sometimes and all of a sudden a blog post appears…

Thanks Lorenzo!

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience with your father. You’re right about a parting letter potentially holding some undue power over a child, especially if it invoked some parental wish that was at odds with a child’s natural inclinations or path. If I think about my own kids I really only have a few things I want them to know for certain — I love them, and they can count on me when they need me. I had that from both of my parents and it was always there, in the back of my mind, a sort of “I’ll be ok” feeling because I knew I wasn’t alone in the world.

I think the way you are finding “something” is the part of my father that I wish I had. I have bits and scraps but not the more personal details.

Sorry I crowded up your head with this post!

The story lines of our lives may be dramatically different but some common themes run through them all. One being that we want our parents in our lives. I know everyone’s situation is different and not all parents can be (or should be) in their children’s lives, but acknowledging that desire is important. Both my parents were in my life but I had neither the fore thought or courage to really get to know them…

We all find ways to release as you say, cope with the toil and work of living. Painting and scooting fall into the healthy ways of doing that!

Sorry to hear about your mother. Be well.

Thanks Robert. I was pleased to find it. Nice to be reminded of where I’ve been and who I’ve seen.